So you’ll see literally thousands of articles online written for women (and men) about getting over their insecurities, and how to do it. It seems to be the biggest interior problem that the feminine demographic is currently facing.
So I’m not here to be another voice echoing into the abyss of the internet world repeating things that you’ve already heard countless times in a way that you’ve already heard countless times with stories that you’ve already heard countless times. I’m here to talk about why we’re facing this problem, and why it’s so important to acquire some realizations about it. This is not a “you’re beautiful” type of article. This is not a “love yourself so eat the cupcake” kind of article. This is an article about truth, and it’s the hard truth. This is about what we’re called to do. This is a pep talk to get you to shift your perspective. So brace yourself.
Because the truth is that YOU ARE SO POWERFUL. And that is exactly why you are insecure right now.
Let me explain.
When the Enemy sees something good, somebody that the Lord can do amazing things through, somebody with gifts (which is all of us) he wreaks havoc with that heart. He makes us believe that you don’t measure up. He makes us think that we don’t have what it takes to do great things. He makes you and I believe that we can’t be loved. He knows the amazing power of God, and the amazing power of His Holy Spirit in souls that have given their lives over to Him. He tries to shut down our amazing potential all the more because He wants to limit God’s kingdom, and make it seem limited.
You have all kinds of forces against you. On top of all the spiritual warfare going on, we live in an incredibly flawed world with a ridiculously skewed perception of beauty, telling us that beauty is something to continually strive for and not something that we inherently have. A world that tells us to be something more, to look different. A world that gives us unrealistic expectations. And it frustrates me to no end. Undoubtedly, we should do everything in out power to change our shallow culture that objectifies our bodies.
But the reality is, that’s not going to happen overnight. And that is the world we live in. The face of the matter is, we do get tempted. So maybe at this point we need to rise above the crap and lies that are given to us, instead of complaining about it. Maybe it’s time that we become proactive instead of reactive. Maybe we need to look those messages in the face and say that we don’t need it. Maybe we need to not let it in and walk the high road instead. Maybe we need to stop believing lies. Maybe we need to immerse ourselves in the promises of God and actually believe them.
Because honestly, there is so much to do. Think about the world and how much it needs to be loved, and all the people who struggle with the same things you do who need empathy and truth spoken to them.
Think about the women in our world who have accomplished great things. Joan of Arc, Eleanor Roosevelt, Clare of Assisi, Mother Teresa, Margaret Thatcher, Malala Yousafzai. Do you think they spent their time complaining or asking for attention or wishing they were a size smaller or shorter or obsessing over pimples? Do you think their lives were driven by what people thought about them? Or what they thought people might think about them? Do you think they were afraid to be different?
Actually, probably. They probably did feel that way sometimes. Because we all do. Expect to fall into the traps of insecurity again sometimes because that is fallen humanity.
But the important part is what these women did about it, and what we do about it. It is vital that we recognize the place that insecurity has in our lives. And that we rise up.
These women decided to devote their lives to bringing love to the world. To make others’ lives better. To change things. And that is what we’re all called to do, in our own way and with our own gifts. Sometimes that looks like writing and witnessing. Sometimes that looks like doing well in school. Sometimes that looks like kindness. Sometimes that is bravely, humbly, and gently loving who you are amidst a world of people who hate themselves, because that frees others to do the same!
Sidenote here: loving ourselves does not mean indulging ourselves. Like eating a lot of junk food and then posting about how you love your body anyway. It means taking care of our bodies so we can have the energy we need to bring our gifts to fruition, and giving the Holy Spirit a good place to reside. That is how we thrive. Thriving. That is the goal.
One day I decided that feeling sorry for myself, that being insecure about things that I can’t change is a waste of time in light of all that we are created for. I started to believe that I am oceans deep instead of just a surface that is there to impress.
So this is your wake-up call to get your focus off yourself and to look to a huge world that needs your gifts. To accept the hard challenge of loving yourself in a world that tells you not to, and devote yourself to it. To start thriving. To rise above your insecuri
ties, because that is a much more life-giving use of your time.